Priorities

There is a party in power that is trying to violate 70% of the Bill of Rights with one single bill, is building a wall just like the Soviets did in East Germany, and screams about how great the economy is while it racks up more debt to spend money on bombs and weapons to kill innocent people.

The party that is not in power has tried to force a duly elected president out of office with a fraudulent investigation, says they’re concerned about the earth while they fly around in private jets, and is in the process of legalizing the murder of innocent children.

And you’re concerned about gender identity?

What the fuck is wrong with you?

-VIS

Shattered

As most of you know, I just went through the break-up of the most serious relationship I’ve ever had.

I got it out.  I wrote a song and got it out.

It was the most difficult thing I’ve written in my entire life, but just pouring it out onto a sheet of music helped.

Shattered” was a departure for me.  Normally, I write songs in a linear fashion.  First the intro, then the verses, then the bridge, then the chorus, then the refrain, then the solo, then the outro.

But with Shattered, it came together piecemeal.  It was a bunch of different ideas floating around in my heart that I just poured randomly onto paper and audio.  Slowly, methodically, I began piecing it together – a little here, a little there, a bit for the chorus, a bit for the solo, a bit here, a bit there.  As I adjusted one part, I had to go back and refit another part so that it flowed.  It was very much one step back and two steps forward.

Which is ironic because that’s how this healing process is going to be.  I have to find the pieces that fit and put them where they belong – a bit for trust, a bit for forgiveness, a bit for hope, here a little, there a little.  I’m going to stumble and will be forced to step back and readjust an emotion or two to make myself whole again.  It will be one step back and two steps forward.

I’m not healed.  Not by a long shot.  But I’ve taken the first steps in putting the shattered pieces back together.

I’ve defeated opium.  I’ve defeated tobacco.  I’ve defeated alcoholism.  Each time, I put my life back together piece by piece.  And when I was done, the sum was greater than the parts.

I may not be healed, but I’ve started the journey.  And I know myself.  When I start a journey, I’m unstoppable.

Thank you for reading my blather.  This helped me understand my process more deeply.

This was cathartic.

-VIS

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HAHAHA GILLETTE!!!!

LOL!!! Procter & Gamble (P&G), the parent company of Gillette, stated that Gillette was forced to take an EIGHT BILLION DOLLAR write-down on their business for the fourth quarter netting them a loss of $5.4 billion!

https://www.cnbc.com/2019/07/30/procter-gamble-writes-down-gillette-business-but-remains-confident-in-its-future.html

The second a company says “we remain confident in our future“, you know they’re not.  “All war is deception” according to Sun Tzu.  “When you are weak, show the enemy you are strong.” (Sun Tzu, The Art of War).  If any person or corporation says they’re confident in their future, you can wager big money they’re questioning whether they’re gonna survive another year.

P&G claims that currency devaluation and lower demand for their product (because Western men are growing beards) are the reasons to blame.

LOL!  Yeah, 1 billion men ALL decided to grow beards in the latest fiscal fourth quarter, P&G?  Just organically and magically, men decided to stop shaving?  It had nothing to do with your incredibly offensive, ridiculous, “woke” commercial?  Nothing at all?

Good LORD you people must be in serious denial – and major damage control mode.  Just wait until 1Q results are in.  It’s going to be disastrous.

Get woke, go broke, Gillette.   We told you we’d boycott and we did.  And now you’re 8 billion freaking dollars poorer because of it.

The market has spoken, cucks.

-VIS

I’m Free From the Shackles of VIS

I posted on Tumblr and BDSMlr that I would no longer be writing on the VIS blogs there.  I did not, however, mention that I would continue to post here.

And ladies and gentlemen, buckle your seatbelts.

You see, on Tumblr, I was very tightly bound by what I could say and couldn’t say.  Here, I’m free.  I can talk about consensual abuse (which is awesome with the right partner, by the way), I’m free to talk about the necessity of hate speech, I’m free to talk about anything I please.

I’m free from the shackles that bound me as the Tumblr VIS persona.

Now, I can be me.

I pay for this website out of my own pocket.  I can write what I want.  I don’t intend to go too far (I’m generally not a hateful person), but if I want to talk about how wonderful consensual non-consent (consensual rape) is, I will.  And Tumblr staff can piss off.

And if you don’t like what I write here, dear reader, you can piss off too.

See, I don’t care anymore.  I’m going to write whatever the hell I want.

Welcome to VIS 2.0.

-VIS

VIS Books – Prices Slashed

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– Vintage In Stepford (VIS)

Benevolent Sexism – Definition

benevolent sexism [buh-nev-uh-luh nt sek-siz-uh m] – noun -See under ambivalent sexism.

ambivalent sexism [am-biv-uh-luh nt sek-siz-uh m] – noun – a theory that sexism toward women is multidimensional, one form (hostile sexism) reflecting negative views of women who challenge traditional gender roles, and the other form (benevolent sexism) reflecting positive views of women who conform to these roles.

Dictionary.com. (2019). Benevolent Sexism.

-VIS

What is Benevolent Sexism?

Benevolent sexism is a form of paternalistic prejudice (treating a lower status group as a father might treat a child) directed toward women. Prejudice is often thought of as a dislike or antipathy toward a group. Benevolent sexism, however, is an affectionate but patronizing attitude that treats women as needing men’s help, protection, and provision (i.e., as being more like children than adults). Benevolently sexist attitudes suggest that women are purer and nicer than men, but also mentally weaker and less capable. Behaviors that illustrate benevolent sexism include overhelping women (implying they cannot do something themselves), using diminutive names (e.g., “sweetie”) toward female strangers, or “talking down” to women (e.g., implying they cannot understand something technical).

-from “Benevolent Sexism Definition” on Psychology.iresearch.com

Believe It Or Not, Women Are Simple Creatures – The BAR System

Think she’s complicated?  Think again.

Most men think that women are complex creatures.  They complain about women over-analyzing, running amok, and being too demanding.

But in fact, the opposite is true.  All girls really need in life is 3 things – and they form an acronym: Boundaries, Appreciation, and Routine – or BAR.

If she has Boundaries, which include punishment for violation, she knows there are limitations on how far she can go before you put her back in her place. Boundaries also include accountability for her actions.  These Boundaries give her a sense of security unlike anything else you can give her.

Of course, she needs Appreciation – to be used like a slut, to be cuddled when she cries, to be told she’s a “good girl” when her behavior is at its best. Appreciation includes “I love you”s and maintenance spankings.

She requires Routine which includes consistency.  If she’s busy with her Routine, she doesn’t have time to over-think.  If she doesn’t have time to over-think, she can’t over-analyze every little situation in her life, and that’s liberating for her.

Make no mistake, she will consistently test to make sure these 3 things are still in place.  It’s not a challenge to your authority, your masculinity, or your dominance; it’s actually a compliment.  She treats these little tests like a “ping” signal.  She pings because maybe, just maybe, she’s feeling a little insecure right at that moment and she needs to know the BAR is still firmly in place and because you’re the only one who can make her feel secure again.  Don’t cower from the test, delight in it.  She’s pinging you because she believes in you and knows with all her heart that you’ll return the ping signal with a loving, “it’s okay, babygirl … everything’s under control.”

All your girl has ever wanted is freedom in chains.  Give her that freedom.

Set the BAR for her.

-VIS

Gentlemen, Carry A Knife

I’ve seen many videos of young gentlemen being given a box, then pulling out a key to open it.

If you want to be seen as a gentleman, you need to carry a knife of some kind.  Pocket knives – such as Old Timer and Swiss Army – are the most unobtrusive but some men, such as myself, carry “multi-tools” capable of 20 or more functions (such as Leatherman or Gerber) – one of which is almost always a razor sharp blade.

Carrying a blade can be incredibly handy.  It’s not just an issue of opening letters and boxes.  If you’re witness to a car accident and the vehicle is engulfed in flames, you can rescue victims quickly by pulling out your knife and cutting the seat belts.  If an animal is tangled in something, your knife can save its life.

A gentleman cares about every life around him, and carrying a blade – whether an Old Timer pocket blade or more robust Leatherman Surge multi-tool – will allow you to protect those lives before First Responders can arrive.

And ladies, a knife is always appreciated by your man as a gift.  You can never go wrong by buying a man a blade for his birthday, anniversary, or Christmas.

A gentleman carries many things – honor, courage, wisdom – but one of the most practical things any gentleman carries is a good quality blade.

-VIS

The Gentleman’s Times: Why Should A Gentleman Have A Study?

A “man cave” may seem like a great retreat.  But you’re a better man than that – or, at least, you should want to be a better man.

Do you have a man cave?  Is it piled high with empty beer cans of your favorite brews?  Is that the place you go to play video games and watch football?

Ditch it.  Build a study instead.

If you want a traditional girl, you need to become the traditional man of her dreams.  Back in the day, gentlemen were refined, educated, well-read, and continued their studies throughout their lives.  The completion of a post-secondary education was not the end of learning for a gentleman – it was only the beginning.  When time permitted, men didn’t just sit around the house doing nothing.  They retreated to their study (or library as some called it) and educated themselves well beyond what they had learned at university.

Why?

You’ve heard that knowledge is power. It’s true.  But gentlemen don’t cede their power to university professors who are paid to teach a very narrow sliver of any given field of academia.  Gentlemen achieve the degree necessary for the job they seek, then build upon – or dispute – what their professors taught them in college.

What did gentlemen read in their studies?  Masterpieces by the ancients – Socrates, Plato, John Locke, John Calvin, Marcus Tullius Cicero, Marcus Aurelius, the Bible, the Qur’an, the Bhagavad Gita, the Tipitaka .. you name it and gentlemen would study it.

Did you know that the phrase “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness” from the Declaration of Independence of the United States is almost a direct quote from John Locke’s Second Treatise on Civil Government?  Did you know that the Founding Fathers of the United States disagreed on the implementation of Locke’s ideologies but all agreed that the principles of governance that Locke espoused made for a strong civil government?  Do you think GTA5 will ever teach you that?

Do you know the allegory of The Cave from Plato?  Can you apply it to your own life?  Are you brave enough to admit that no matter who you are or what you believe, you’re probably caught in your own echo chamber just like the people in The Cave?

Sure, you know E=MC² means, but do you deeply understand the General and Special Theories of Relativity?  Do you understand why Delta Factor is so important – and so controversial?  Bertrand Russel wrote an excellent summary called The ABC’s of Relativity.  I read it when I was 22.  I still have my 90 year old copy.  Written on the inside page in beautiful handwriting are the words, “N.L. Robinson. Dept. Pathology, Toronto.  Bought in London to read on the boat (Milwaukee) coming home.  Sailed Dec 19th 1929, arrived (New York) Jan 1st, 1930.″  If you can find a copy, perhaps you should pick one up.

Do you know what the Fatal Logical Flaws of argument are?  Did you know that prior to about the year 1960, the first person to use an ad hominem(personal/character) attack during even a private debate was immediately declared to have lost the debate?  It was a gentleman’s agreement and sore losers were rightfully shamed.

Do you know who first said, “never interrupt your enemy when he is making a mistake”?

According to Sun Tzu’s The Art of War, all warfare is … what?

Why do you need to know this stuff, anyway?  What’s it going to gain you?

A traditional wife, for one.  Traditional girls are not stupid.  They often play dumb to boost a man’s ego, but believe me, it’s a facade.  They’re attracted to an intelligent, well-read, refined gentleman.

But beyond a good wife, there is a world out there to explore beyond your beer cans and video game console.  Knowledge, wisdom, refinement, critical thinking … these are just some of the hallmarks of a gentleman.

Take advice from a man who once had a man cave: ditch it.  Gut the whole thing and build yourself a library or study.  Get a good desk and a comfortable executive chair.  Buy a decent quality desk lamp (banker’s lamps are excellent for studies).  Surround yourself in books.  Immerse yourself in them.

Become the gentleman your traditional girl adores and the man your grandfather would admire.

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Why Should A Gentleman Have A Study?  The Gentleman’s Times.  Copyright © Vintage In Stepford, June 21, 2019. All Rights Reserved.

A Glitch In The Matrix, or Do Some Things Never Change?

What is driving the return to Traditional Gender Role relationships?

It’s counter-cultural.  People are awakening to a new possibility – that the postmodernist cultural norms are unfulfilling and that in order to feel that we have worth in the midst of this hell we call ‘life’, we must find purpose for ourselves.  For men, that purpose is a natural inclination to lead, guide, teach, and to take responsibility.  For women, that purpose is a natural inclination to nurture, to care for others, and to empathize with those whom they love and – in the best cases – even with those whom they hate.

Postmodernism left us with the belief that rights are all that matters.  The post-postmodernist, post-feminist counter-culture (which I have dubbed “The New Counter-Culture”) has embraced the concept that rights are not the negation of responsibility.  On the contrary, obligations and responsibilities are what make our rights so meaningful.

The rise of postmodernism, and its bedmate, feminism, have long promoted that men and women are essentially the same.  Fraught with problematic dogmas, these sub-cultures have risen in direct correlation to a decline in women’s overall happiness and happiness relative to men.   The New Counter-Culture, on the other hand, is realizing a singular truth: if we do not recognize that men and women each have distinct natural inclinations that must be heeded, our lives are meaningless – and often unhappy.

There is a balance that can be struck.  We can believe in endless possibilities and unlimited potential for every individual.  At the same time, we must realize that each individual sees their unlimited potential and endless possibilities as something different.  For one person, unlimited potential may be building a business from scratch into a Fortune 500 company.  For another, it may be working long nights as a scientist in a laboratory trying to discover the cure for a fatal disease.  For another, unlimited potential may mean staying at home with children, worshiping the God of their choice, and serving their spouse.  The New Counter-Culture recognizes that all of these potentials are valid and that if we are to give their own lives meaning, we must pursue our personal vision of our own “unlimited potential.”

What is most interesting about the New Counter-Culture is that it is based not on new rights and responsibilities or even new means of interpreting the two.  No, the new counter-culture merely takes old ideas and breathes new life into them through the lens of instincts and natural proclivities – just as human beings have done for thousands of years.

A wise man once said, “what has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; and there is nothing new under the sun.”  That is the essence of the counter-cultural revolution we are witnessing today.

-VIS

“If ye meet a man on the road, count his fingers, lest ye deal unknowing with a fae.”

-Irish Proverb

(If you have ever heard the Irish and Scottish stories of dealing with fae, or ever read the Book of Enoch and read the stories of the Nephilim, or have investigated the rumours of the U.S. Military’s alleged encounter with the “Kandahar Giant”, or have listened closely to the stories told by Native North Americans about their struggles against the “red headed giants”, you’ll understand this proverb.)

-VIS