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Benevolent Sexism – Definition

benevolent sexism [buh-nev-uh-luh nt sek-siz-uh m] – noun -See under ambivalent sexism.

ambivalent sexism [am-biv-uh-luh nt sek-siz-uh m] – noun – a theory that sexism toward women is multidimensional, one form (hostile sexism) reflecting negative views of women who challenge traditional gender roles, and the other form (benevolent sexism) reflecting positive views of women who conform to these roles.

Dictionary.com. (2019). Benevolent Sexism.

-VIS

What is Benevolent Sexism?

Benevolent sexism is a form of paternalistic prejudice (treating a lower status group as a father might treat a child) directed toward women. Prejudice is often thought of as a dislike or antipathy toward a group. Benevolent sexism, however, is an affectionate but patronizing attitude that treats women as needing men’s help, protection, and provision (i.e., as being more like children than adults). Benevolently sexist attitudes suggest that women are purer and nicer than men, but also mentally weaker and less capable. Behaviors that illustrate benevolent sexism include overhelping women (implying they cannot do something themselves), using diminutive names (e.g., “sweetie”) toward female strangers, or “talking down” to women (e.g., implying they cannot understand something technical).

-from “Benevolent Sexism Definition” on Psychology.iresearch.com

Believe It Or Not, Women Are Simple Creatures – The BAR System

Think she’s complicated?  Think again.

Most men think that women are complex creatures.  They complain about women over-analyzing, running amok, and being too demanding.

But in fact, the opposite is true.  All girls really need in life is 3 things – and they form an acronym: Boundaries, Appreciation, and Routine – or BAR.

If she has Boundaries, which include punishment for violation, she knows there are limitations on how far she can go before you put her back in her place. Boundaries also include accountability for her actions.  These Boundaries give her a sense of security unlike anything else you can give her.

Of course, she needs Appreciation – to be used like a slut, to be cuddled when she cries, to be told she’s a “good girl” when her behavior is at its best. Appreciation includes “I love you”s and maintenance spankings.

She requires Routine which includes consistency.  If she’s busy with her Routine, she doesn’t have time to over-think.  If she doesn’t have time to over-think, she can’t over-analyze every little situation in her life, and that’s liberating for her.

Make no mistake, she will consistently test to make sure these 3 things are still in place.  It’s not a challenge to your authority, your masculinity, or your dominance; it’s actually a compliment.  She treats these little tests like a “ping” signal.  She pings because maybe, just maybe, she’s feeling a little insecure right at that moment and she needs to know the BAR is still firmly in place and because you’re the only one who can make her feel secure again.  Don’t cower from the test, delight in it.  She’s pinging you because she believes in you and knows with all her heart that you’ll return the ping signal with a loving, “it’s okay, babygirl … everything’s under control.”

All your girl has ever wanted is freedom in chains.  Give her that freedom.

Set the BAR for her.

-VIS

Gentlemen, Carry A Knife

I’ve seen many videos of young gentlemen being given a box, then pulling out a key to open it.

If you want to be seen as a gentleman, you need to carry a knife of some kind.  Pocket knives – such as Old Timer and Swiss Army – are the most unobtrusive but some men, such as myself, carry “multi-tools” capable of 20 or more functions (such as Leatherman or Gerber) – one of which is almost always a razor sharp blade.

Carrying a blade can be incredibly handy.  It’s not just an issue of opening letters and boxes.  If you’re witness to a car accident and the vehicle is engulfed in flames, you can rescue victims quickly by pulling out your knife and cutting the seat belts.  If an animal is tangled in something, your knife can save its life.

A gentleman cares about every life around him, and carrying a blade – whether an Old Timer pocket blade or more robust Leatherman Surge multi-tool – will allow you to protect those lives before First Responders can arrive.

And ladies, a knife is always appreciated by your man as a gift.  You can never go wrong by buying a man a blade for his birthday, anniversary, or Christmas.

A gentleman carries many things – honor, courage, wisdom – but one of the most practical things any gentleman carries is a good quality blade.

-VIS

The Gentleman’s Times: Why Should A Gentleman Have A Study?

A “man cave” may seem like a great retreat.  But you’re a better man than that – or, at least, you should want to be a better man.

Do you have a man cave?  Is it piled high with empty beer cans of your favorite brews?  Is that the place you go to play video games and watch football?

Ditch it.  Build a study instead.

If you want a traditional girl, you need to become the traditional man of her dreams.  Back in the day, gentlemen were refined, educated, well-read, and continued their studies throughout their lives.  The completion of a post-secondary education was not the end of learning for a gentleman – it was only the beginning.  When time permitted, men didn’t just sit around the house doing nothing.  They retreated to their study (or library as some called it) and educated themselves well beyond what they had learned at university.

Why?

You’ve heard that knowledge is power. It’s true.  But gentlemen don’t cede their power to university professors who are paid to teach a very narrow sliver of any given field of academia.  Gentlemen achieve the degree necessary for the job they seek, then build upon – or dispute – what their professors taught them in college.

What did gentlemen read in their studies?  Masterpieces by the ancients – Socrates, Plato, John Locke, John Calvin, Marcus Tullius Cicero, Marcus Aurelius, the Bible, the Qur’an, the Bhagavad Gita, the Tipitaka .. you name it and gentlemen would study it.

Did you know that the phrase “life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness” from the Declaration of Independence of the United States is almost a direct quote from John Locke’s Second Treatise on Civil Government?  Did you know that the Founding Fathers of the United States disagreed on the implementation of Locke’s ideologies but all agreed that the principles of governance that Locke espoused made for a strong civil government?  Do you think GTA5 will ever teach you that?

Do you know the allegory of The Cave from Plato?  Can you apply it to your own life?  Are you brave enough to admit that no matter who you are or what you believe, you’re probably caught in your own echo chamber just like the people in The Cave?

Sure, you know E=MC² means, but do you deeply understand the General and Special Theories of Relativity?  Do you understand why Delta Factor is so important – and so controversial?  Bertrand Russel wrote an excellent summary called The ABC’s of Relativity.  I read it when I was 22.  I still have my 90 year old copy.  Written on the inside page in beautiful handwriting are the words, “N.L. Robinson. Dept. Pathology, Toronto.  Bought in London to read on the boat (Milwaukee) coming home.  Sailed Dec 19th 1929, arrived (New York) Jan 1st, 1930.″  If you can find a copy, perhaps you should pick one up.

Do you know what the Fatal Logical Flaws of argument are?  Did you know that prior to about the year 1960, the first person to use an ad hominem(personal/character) attack during even a private debate was immediately declared to have lost the debate?  It was a gentleman’s agreement and sore losers were rightfully shamed.

Do you know who first said, “never interrupt your enemy when he is making a mistake”?

According to Sun Tzu’s The Art of War, all warfare is … what?

Why do you need to know this stuff, anyway?  What’s it going to gain you?

A traditional wife, for one.  Traditional girls are not stupid.  They often play dumb to boost a man’s ego, but believe me, it’s a facade.  They’re attracted to an intelligent, well-read, refined gentleman.

But beyond a good wife, there is a world out there to explore beyond your beer cans and video game console.  Knowledge, wisdom, refinement, critical thinking … these are just some of the hallmarks of a gentleman.

Take advice from a man who once had a man cave: ditch it.  Gut the whole thing and build yourself a library or study.  Get a good desk and a comfortable executive chair.  Buy a decent quality desk lamp (banker’s lamps are excellent for studies).  Surround yourself in books.  Immerse yourself in them.

Become the gentleman your traditional girl adores and the man your grandfather would admire.

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Why Should A Gentleman Have A Study?  The Gentleman’s Times.  Copyright © Vintage In Stepford, June 21, 2019. All Rights Reserved.

A Glitch In The Matrix, or Do Some Things Never Change?

What is driving the return to Traditional Gender Role relationships?

It’s counter-cultural.  People are awakening to a new possibility – that the postmodernist cultural norms are unfulfilling and that in order to feel that we have worth in the midst of this hell we call ‘life’, we must find purpose for ourselves.  For men, that purpose is a natural inclination to lead, guide, teach, and to take responsibility.  For women, that purpose is a natural inclination to nurture, to care for others, and to empathize with those whom they love and – in the best cases – even with those whom they hate.

Postmodernism left us with the belief that rights are all that matters.  The post-postmodernist, post-feminist counter-culture (which I have dubbed “The New Counter-Culture”) has embraced the concept that rights are not the negation of responsibility.  On the contrary, obligations and responsibilities are what make our rights so meaningful.

The rise of postmodernism, and its bedmate, feminism, have long promoted that men and women are essentially the same.  Fraught with problematic dogmas, these sub-cultures have risen in direct correlation to a decline in women’s overall happiness and happiness relative to men.   The New Counter-Culture, on the other hand, is realizing a singular truth: if we do not recognize that men and women each have distinct natural inclinations that must be heeded, our lives are meaningless – and often unhappy.

There is a balance that can be struck.  We can believe in endless possibilities and unlimited potential for every individual.  At the same time, we must realize that each individual sees their unlimited potential and endless possibilities as something different.  For one person, unlimited potential may be building a business from scratch into a Fortune 500 company.  For another, it may be working long nights as a scientist in a laboratory trying to discover the cure for a fatal disease.  For another, unlimited potential may mean staying at home with children, worshiping the God of their choice, and serving their spouse.  The New Counter-Culture recognizes that all of these potentials are valid and that if we are to give their own lives meaning, we must pursue our personal vision of our own “unlimited potential.”

What is most interesting about the New Counter-Culture is that it is based not on new rights and responsibilities or even new means of interpreting the two.  No, the new counter-culture merely takes old ideas and breathes new life into them through the lens of instincts and natural proclivities – just as human beings have done for thousands of years.

A wise man once said, “what has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; and there is nothing new under the sun.”  That is the essence of the counter-cultural revolution we are witnessing today.

-VIS

“If ye meet a man on the road, count his fingers, lest ye deal unknowing with a fae.”

-Irish Proverb

(If you have ever heard the Irish and Scottish stories of dealing with fae, or ever read the Book of Enoch and read the stories of the Nephilim, or have investigated the rumours of the U.S. Military’s alleged encounter with the “Kandahar Giant”, or have listened closely to the stories told by Native North Americans about their struggles against the “red headed giants”, you’ll understand this proverb.)

-VIS

Jerry Nadler

I’ve experienced this.  3 times.  This is a mini-stroke in process.

I thought I wanted to see justice, and I do.  I thought I wanted to see them punished, and I do.  I thought I wanted to see them suffer, and now I realize that I don’t want to see that at all.

And this man may be an enemy of the people.  He may be a traitor.  He may be an evil, evil man – IF the allegations against him are true.

But he’s a  fellow human being and he’s suffering.  Terribly.  And that breaks my heart.

This is not a game, folks.  This is real life happening.  People are dying in this battle.  People are suffering.  People, like Jerry Nadler, above, are under so much stress and pressure from incoming indictments that they’re literally stroking out in public.

I used to be angry about what they had allegedly done.  I’m not angry anymore.  I’m just sad.  It’s all so sad.  Human beings – my brothers and sisters – are going to suffer.

I wish it didn’t have to be this way.  It’s so incredibly sad.

We are commanded, “Justice, justice, you shall pursue” (Deuteronomy 16:20) and I believe we should obey.  But it’s not as easy as it sounds.  Sometimes, like right now, it can be incredibly difficult.

No matter who you are, no matter who they are, no matter if they are your enemy or the incarnation of evil, please, please, pray for them.

“Beware that, when fighting monsters, you yourself do not become a monster… for when you gaze long into the abyss. The abyss gazes also into you.” – Friedrich Nietzsche 

-VIS

Just a little announcement – something of which I’m very proud:

As of 11 AM this morning, my house and cabin are mortgage-free.

When the paperwork is completed on Monday, I will outright own these two properties – no debt, no mortgages, no bankers involved.

It’s a very good day.

-VIS

Reminiscing

I gotta question for you, JC.  Why’d you delete your “Five Jobs I’ve Had” tweet?

It’s a funny thing, isn’t it, Jimmy Boy?  You probably don’t remember deleting it.  It just went *poof*.  Kinda like that time you thought Johnny O’Picklefarm had your back then threw you under the bus.  One second it’s there, the next second it’s not.  It’s just … gone.

*POOF!* Right, Ol’ Jimmy Boy?

But guess what, Jimmy?

We have the tweet.  We have the report from GVPD.  And Jimmy, I hate to break it to you, buddy, but … we have it all.

But I’m sure it’s all a misunderstanding.  Right, Jim?  Just a coincidence.

You and I both know there is no such thing as a coincidence, ol’ Jimmy Boy.  Don’t we?

And it’s a funny thing, Jim, because we kept that tweet because we figured it might come in handy.  You know, that someday, we can all look back at that tweet and the report from GVPD and give them to our buddy, Ol’ Bulldog Durham.  You know … invite a few friends over (Bulldog wants to be there for sure) and talk about the good ol’ days when you and Johnny O’Picklefarm got the Clap together.

How about we meet next week?

Sincerely,

All Nonsense Over Nothing

The Rise of Trump, the Fall of Racism?

Two sociologists (Daniel J. Hopkins and Samantha Washington) at the University of Pennsylvania have confirmed what conservatives claimed they already knew: racism in America has been reduced under President Trump.

I found plenty of conservative news sites referencing this article, but none linked to it.  I searched Google for it.  Nothing.

Then I tried DuckDuckGo.  Bingo.

Now, this is a long-term study – over a period of 10 years from 2008 to 2018 with 2,500 participants.  So this is not a small study and it is not a short-term one, either.  And if you know anything about scientific studies, the bigger the participation group and the longer the period of time over which it is conducted, the more accurate it is believed to be.

Knowing this study will probably disappear from the internet pretty quickly given the Left’s penchant for deleting material that disagrees with their assumptions, I downloaded a free copy.  You can download it from this site on the link below.

I got it for free, feel free to download it.  There is NO copyright notification on this document.  Therefore, you can legally download and distribute this document on the condition that you do not earn any monies from it.

Trump reduced prejudice Hopkins Washington pdf

-VIS

The Writer’s Paradox

You need to write to stay sane.

You need to eat to stay alive.

If you accept money for what you write, you’re beholden to your audience to deliver the same thing in a different package time after time after time.

You don’t want to write it, but you must if you want to eat.

Writing it keeps you barely sane because it’s not what you want to write.

When you write what you want to write, your audience won’t buy it, so you don’t eat.

Then, when you return to writing what your audience wants to read so that you can eat, you’re labelled a “sell-out.”

This is the essence of the writer’s paradox.


Alas! ’tis true, I have gone here and there

And made myself a motley to the view

Gored mine own thoughts

Sold cheap what is most dear.

– Shakespeare, Sonnet 10

The “Face Slap Reset”

Have you ever noticed how – when your man slaps your face – every thought and emotion you had at the time suddenly becomes reset?

A face slap grounds you.  It helps you to realize how emotional, hormonal, and irrational you were being just a second or two before. It helps you understand that you were not thinking logically.

Best of all, it reminds you that he’s in control of everything – your world, your emotions, and your body.

When he slaps your face – and he will, eventually, if you allow yourself to become to over-emotional – remember to thank him for bringing you back down to earth.

A firm slap to your cheek is one of the greatest gifts he can give you when your world seems to be spiraling out of control.

-VIS

The Gentleman’s Times – Life Is Chess

Is chess just a silly board game for old people?  Or can it teach you strategies for a successful life?

I often encourage young men to learn to play chess – and there are some very specific reasons for doing so.

While playing chess, you’re forced to think at least three moves ahead of your opponent.  Anticipating their next move, your countermove, then their countermove teaches the ability to expect the unexpected – and prepare for it.  That job you were counting on didn’t come through?  That’s okay.  You expected that move.  That’s why you’ve already got two or three others lined up.  Your paycheck fell short of expectations?  That’s okay.  You expected that move.  That’s why you’ve got two months’ salary in your savings account.

Chess also teaches a young man to be skeptical about assuming the intentions of others.  In chess, your opponent may take a pawn with another pawn just to distract you from their real target – your queen.  Your flirty crush ended up going on a date with your best friend?  That’s okay.  You saw her intended target weeks ago – that’s why you’ve been oversharing some of her major flaws with him.  Your boss moved you laterally within the company to a department he knew you didn’t like?  That’s okay.  You knew the intended target was to get you out the door.  That’s why you sent a resume to your company’s main competitor who is desperate for inside dirt on their rival.

Believe it or not, chess can help you better understand Traditional Gender Role relationships, too.  You see, in chess, the king can move in any direction – but only one square at a time.  The queen, however, can move in any direction, any distance she wants.  This teaches young men that – as the king in a Traditional Gender Role relationship – there is only so much he can do to influence others.  And when his options are limited, he’s confident that his queen has the charm, grace, and femininity to influence those he cannot.

When I was young, if I wanted to play a challenging game of chess, I was able to play against my father.  But if he didn’t want to play, I had to travel across town to the local chess club – if it was open – to play a decent game.  Now, young men can simply pull out their phones and play chess on thousands of different skill levels – from absolute novice to Grandmaster.

And while reading blogs about Traditional Gender Roles and life in general might provide young men with a few memorable quotes on how to handle situations that may arise in life, chess teaches strategies, tactics, alternate and critical thinking, anticipation of action, how to avoid red herrings, and so much more.

Blogs are fine.  But nothing will teach a young man more about the game of life than chess.  And after he’s been playing for several years, he will discover an incredible truth:

Life is chess.  And if he has mastered the chessboard, he will master life itself.


Life Is Chess.  The Gentleman’s Times, April 24, 2019.  Copyright © April 24, 2019 by Vintage In Stepford, All Rights Reserved.

Give Her A Name That Suits Her

If you and your girl have chosen to rename her, choose something that suits her personality.

When babies are born, parents choose a name knowing nothing about whom the child will become.  But you, as her Traditional Man, know her better than her parents did when she was born, so choose something that suits her.

Is she a talented musician?  Perhaps Melodie would suit her.  Is she interested in gardening?  Perhaps Rose is an appropriate name.  Does she love old movies?  Perhaps name her after an old-time movie star.
Or, perhaps, make up a name out of thin air that you feel best reflects her personality.

Whenever you call her by her new name, she’s certain to feel the sense of ownership it projects.  Like a tug on a leash, she’ll learn to respond better to her new name than her old one.

-VIS